Believe In Yourself: The Power Of Self-confidence

When no one believes in you, you have to believe in yourself. When someone says you’re not worth anything, that your moment has already passed or that you’re not going to get what you want, you can raise your head and smile. Because you are the only person who can limit you. Believing in yourself gives you confidence and a more stable understanding.

Sometimes it is necessary to drink from a lion’s drinking spot. Only in this way will you be able to defeat fear and limit its impact. Uncertainty is therefore a bad partner in this sense. If you choose to stay in a safe place, you will never enjoy the view from the top of the mountain where endless possibilities come to life before your eyes.

Abraham Maslow told us that people come into the world with almost unlimited potential. People have the ability to reach the peak of needs where the greatest goals of happiness and well-being are located. Strange as it sounds, however, not everyone succeeds in reaching the top.

What is the reason for that? At some point, our response will become a skilled factor willing to derail our personal growth. They are found in many situations and they often act without warning. They can appear in the form of a close relative, friends, co-workers, or company executives. We talk about the people who cut our wings and convince us that we are not worth anything.

Jonah complex: when you don’t believe in yourself

Imagine you have had asthma since you were young and you were told early on that sports just aren’t your thing. Football, karate, tennis? Under no circumstances! Maybe some calmer sport would be better like chess or drawing so as not to put it at risk. You later told your teacher that you wanted to become an astronaut and he looked at you in a sarcastic and ironic way. “But you’re not good at science. You’d better focus on something else, ”he said.

Now you’re in high school. While studying geography and history, you decide to become a writer. It will take you a year to write an original dystopic science fiction novel. Then when you introduce it to the publisher, he doesn’t even write back.

Your script is one among thousands. Your family and friends will tell you that it would be best for you to forget it. They say you should focus on becoming a high school teacher. As a teacher who sometimes dreams of a career as a professional athlete, astronaut and writer…

What should you do when no one believes you? Maslow wrote an interesting book on this subject. The title of the book is  The Farther Reaches of Human Nature. He says in it that while  most of us have exceptional potential for self-improvement, we don’t always do so. We limit ourselves to fantasizing about what we could be and what we could achieve.

However, we do not get the right means of expression or psychological conditions to do so. We allow ourselves to be influenced by the opinions of other people and stay within our comfort zone. Maslow called such a phenomenon the  Jonah Complex.  It refers to all those people who are aware of their abilities but are afraid to develop themselves out of fear and uncertainty.

Believe in yourself when no one else believes in you

There will always be at least one person trying to tell you that you are incapable of knowing enough or even worse that you cannot achieve your dreams. When no one believes in you, you have only one option: believe in yourself. It’s the most logical and best way to prove others wrong.

However, such an achievement is not easy or quick. It requires you to do enough work on the next three dimensions. Let’s consider them a bit.

1. Don’t be yourself, but be who you want to be

As we grow, we are used to hearing the saying “be yourself”. It’s time to take a step forward and hone this idea a bit. If we limit ourselves to “being ourselves,” we may instill habits that are not in our best interests. If fear, uncertainty, and the need for acceptance remain in our current state of mind, we will not be able to achieve our goals. We should ideally specify what we want and who we want to be. We must nurture inner change with great strength and courage in order to have full faith in ourselves.

2. Make the leap from the life you have to the life you want

Every leap needs a whim and every whim needs a sufficient amount of strength, will, motivation and optimism. So when no one believes in you and your abilities, surrendering to that negativity and loss is the last thing you should do. Create a list of steps to do, make a plan in your mind, and fill it with positivity and determination. That way you take the biggest leap.

3. If someone doesn’t believe you, someone else believes

Achieving this goal undoubtedly requires the ability to believe in yourself. However, we live in a society. Achieving goal and success are not things we can do alone. Winnings require recognition. A promotion or award suggests that other people recognize our value.

So don’t be crushed by the first fights. Keep your head up when someone doubts you at some point and even make fun of you. After all, achievements have never had easy beginnings. At some point, the right people will show up. Those people realize and know how to appreciate you.

We would also like to remind you that  the opposite of courage is not fear or cowardice, but uniformity.  In fact, that is precisely our real problem. We are content with what we already have and believe in the comments made by others about us.

So we should begin to doubt those who tell us to stop dreaming, who ask us to come out of the clouds and stop believing in our ridiculous goals. No goal is ridiculous if it lingers in our hearts and minds. We need to challenge fear and win consistency to reach our own peaks.