Come On, Let’s See Each Other To Say Goodbye
Come on, let’s look at each other to say goodbye. I need to explain why I am about to leave, I want to make it clear that love is not always the answer to all vacuums or the treatment of all mistakes. I say goodbye to you face to face, because so people who once loved each other and who deserve respect say goodbye to each other.
We love blindly and love with all our senses , and with what some call our “souls”.
In any case, blind love can never provide enough security for a relationship to flourish through the years. What we need is that kind of deep love that offers us that total and complete peace; where we do not see wrinkles as a sign of many years together, but in days lived full of harmony and happiness.
So far, no one has a “magic formula” that guarantees that. So in anticipation of that, we continue to risk ourselves, get a little too excited, and walk the complex path of emotional relationships.
You will surely agree that one of the most difficult moments you can experience in your life is divorcing. And in addition, during your life, you may have had the opportunity to taste the bitter lime of “rejection” and “being rejected”…
Breaking ties, no matter who does, always causes pain in some form, even when the difference is justified.
When you last went through the difference, what was it like? How did he “part” from you? Or how did you do it? Via phone? By message? Moving away without saying it or its reasons for it any more? Such ways of deciding a relationship are not objective and are particularly unhealthy on an emotional level. Farewell should be left face to face, looking into each other’s eyes and drawing from our hearts our most sincere sincerity…
“The cause is not in you, but in me”
Sure, we know it’s not easy to tell a person who has shared our feelings, dreams, and projects that we’ve stopped loving him. Or that we still love him, but we are unhappy with him. You don’t want new businesses that cause more suffering.
It’s not easy, but it still needs to be done. Such goodbyes are like a coffin full of multiple and mixed emotions, but they have a clear need: to let go and end the song. Keep moving forward.
We should never succumb to the eternal use of the famous phrase “we have to decide this, but it’s not about you, it’s about me.” Behind these famous words is our attempt to avoid hurting our partner, whom we no longer love and whom we do not want to offend by revealing the truth to him. Therefore, we seek refuge from this familiar phrase “the cause is not in you, but in me ”.
When choosing that route, we also choose to take the cause on our own shoulders. By projecting such a false release from a relationship and focusing only on the problem that is within ourselves, we make ourselves a victim and thus facilitate our decision to leave. We avoid telling the truth and leave the relationship in an immature way because we believe that our partner will never understand what really happened.
To break this connection and block access back to the limelight in a holistic and mature way, we must never fall into flatness or white lies. The truth hurts, but sooner or later we have to face it. And in any case, doubts encourage futile hopes to go on with their lives.
Ways to deal with saying goodbye to a relationship
1. First, we need to understand that the difference is final. You know it’s the best and you’re absolutely convinced of that.
2. It is quite possible that he has already sensed some things. However, some people would rather walk around blindfolded than accept the truth, take a leap into the unknown, and do what is best for both parties. Any such love based on a lie will eventually slowly end in the deep depths of unhappiness .
3. Think first about what you are going to say and if you want, you can practice it out loud. This way, when you visualize and listen to your own words, you can face that emotional burden. If you release it in advance, it will be easier when it comes to reality. You have better control over it when the real time finally comes.
4. Now think about all the possible disputes he might start regarding what you just brought to the table. Ask yourself how you would justify or defend yourself.
5. Visualize farewell and distancing. It involves pain. But at the same time, it’s a kind of liberation, something you’ve dealt with completely and in a mature way.
Facing goodbye after being rejected
Leaving someone brings great pain, but when we are the one who is left, this can cause us a different kind of pain that can become very devastating: we lose our self-esteem and self-confidence…
You can’t allow that. Don’t allow yourself to be recklessly drawn into the stream of life or become a victim. It is possible to cope with everything. The best medicine? Time and regaining and restoring your own hope.
For example, becoming left by another person or experiencing it in our own skins, that our partner no longer loves us, are situations that require very deep grief, from which we must be able to pile ourselves up again and continue over time.
But whatever the reason behind the end of the relationship, we also deserve to have him look us in the eye and explain “why” to us before he leaves. Uncertainty generally leads to great anxiety and the feeding of false expectations.
It makes us lose the essential and vital time we should have spent rebuilding ourselves to take that loss and rise again to move on to another path.
Differences that are handled through third parties, by phone calls, or so that you arrive home on a beautiful day that is no longer an empty house, is a spiral that makes itself very difficult for us to break.
All goodbyes need to be taken care of face to face while looking at another person’s eyes. The difference should not be covered up with false thoughts or fearful escapes that cause us pain and suffering.
Be brave. Show courage and emotional maturity toward your partners. In life, there are doors that close and roundabouts that follow. Therefore, everything must be done with integrity, uncompromisingness and inner wisdom.
