Even Though My Heart Is Broken, I’m Still Trying To Learn From This
Even though my heart is broken, I am still trying to find purpose in this experience. I will continue to walk forward. It hurts me when it hurts. I cry when I have to cry. I give my time to all those who appreciate what I feel, but no one wants to hear it.
I respect myself so much that I can share my pain with those who value me and do me good. I am strong enough to make that difference. For this thing I’m experiencing now is mine, and it’s so personal I don’t want to make it any more painful anymore. But I want to find purpose in this experience.
Maybe you can identify with these words. Maybe your heart has been broken in the same way as my heart. Maybe once, or maybe many times. Or maybe your heart will only break with people who have been really important to you. It doesn’t matter where you are.
I find out what’s deep in my heart to better understand it
People react differently to the disappointments caused by love. They are disappointed by what they expect from the relationship, where they had placed their love object in their lives, and by the depth of the relationship itself. There are millions of nuances that take part in the pain throbbing in us.
When we see the mechanisms that work within our relationship, our vision becomes clearer, less blurry. You may be just the kind of person who immediately begins to glorify the person you just met. You start to “fill” her, decorating her with props that really have nothing to do with her.
Most of the time we see him the way we want to see him. We start looking for signs that confirm that she is wonderful and special. We become really good at “makeup.” We add and remove parts from him just as if he were a toy.
Self-deception will most likely make you repeat the same mistakes
Even though we see that the reality is different, our dependence on that person takes a grip on this relationship and it leads us to a windswept. We don’t care if that person is the way we imagined. “I can not live without her.” And at this point, our fear of loneliness begins to awaken, and it will prevail until we are finally willing and able to open our eyes and leave this maze.
To do this, we must look with the eyes of truth, not with the eyes of self-deception. Self-deception has made us stay with the person who didn’t deserve us. Self-deception caused us to fall into the same wrong person over and over again. When we understand how we work in a relationship, we can find purpose in this painful experience. I can understand how that first crack in my heart came about.
The stage that begins when a relationship (or fleeting, unhappy love) ends is a truly fertile land. It is full of opportunities for us to learn from. No more blindfolds or delusions. Only then can we take responsibility for our own mistakes and correct the harvest of learning from them. Only then can we understand what led to their devastating consequences. We can’t spend our whole lives blaming other people: it’s easy to do, but it’s fruitless.
Be honest and explore your responsibilities
We all have our own responsibilities in a relationship. It is important to know how to take responsibility and how to get rid of it when necessary. If we shed our self-esteem to make another person fit into our lives, the relationship is not going to be healthy. When staying by their side becomes our first priority and struggle in our lives, we should open our eyes and see a bright red flag. We need to do something.
Be honest with yourself and always try to find meaning in your painful experiences. There is a purpose to your broken heart. Try to understand yourself better and don’t repeat your same mistakes. Then as you begin to learn from these experiences, you will become a little wiser and a little stronger.
