Finding Answers To Difficult Moments Is Therapeutic
We form an inseparable relationship with words at a very young age. They serve us as we tell stories, when we exchange opinions, when we sort objects, when we look for answers. Words even give form and content to our internal dialogue; to a dialogue that seems to be represented in many programs and films in the form of an angel and a devil.
Surely we all remember a typical scene. The protagonist has to decide between what he wants and what he thinks is right. Then the angel and the devil start exchanging their arguments. You know this is not right, life has to be lived in a crazy way, whatever that or that would say if they saw you now, etc.…
In our minds, we use our language not only in this sense, we also use it to create stories. This is because reality often manifests itself to us as clues as if we were undercover cops. We are the ones who have to put the pieces of the puzzle together one at a time.
I give the story
It is seven in the morning and the alarm clock starts to sound, just like every morning. He turns it off, flips the side, and waits for the next programmed alarm after five minutes. This alarm means he needs to hurry. But which is better, breakfast or five minutes more rest?
She thinks of everything she has to do that day and is buried under the pillow. Mentally, he is looking for the next peaceful moment and doesn’t seem to find it in his meal time. Five minutes have passed and he bounces up like a bow. He starts his autopilot and starts performing routines task after task.
He wakes up in the subway when a creepy explosion makes him fly into the air. It only takes three seconds and he is unconscious again. It will take three days. This time he is awakened by a constantly beating machine. Each beat reflects the fact that his heart is still beating.
After this event, Anna will never return. He hardly ever sleeps, and he is constantly attentive and ready to leave. Anna has learned that any insignificant moment can become relevant in the blink of an eye. Like life, the one we love would hold destructive magic tricks for us.
Anna doesn’t understand her story
Why on the subway he travels every morning? Why didn’t he wake up earlier that day? Why didn’t he die, like some others who traveled in the same wagon? These questions remain in his mind and he needs answers to them.
These are the gaps in his story that have suddenly turned his safe world into a place full of disguised, potential threats, hidden behind innocent gestures. The world is no longer a place to rule or predict. What good is nowhere if everything can be lost in an instant?
I have to heal
Anna doesn’t just have to heal her physical injuries. He needs to re-feel the warmth of security. The feeling of security will not return if he does not find the answer to the questions that torment him. It won’t come back if he can’t complete that morning’s story. He needs to do so so he knows the culprits won’t get a chance to do it again.
This is interesting, but often superstition has immeasurable value in this sense. Imagine that Anna remembers that day she got out of bed with her left foot. He is not so superstitious, but he forms a connection in his mind.
This connection isn’t real, it has no logic in it, but it’s equally fantastic for him. Let him understand that if he gets up on the right foot, this will never happen again. In this way, he has turned an uncontrolled fact into something controlled. And this reassures him. He has found a reason he can act. And as long as it doesn’t cause any disruption to his life, it’s simply awesome.
