Happiness Is Where You Want It To Be
Happiness brings us intoxicating joy. Everyone wants to know its secret and everyone wants to be as happy as it is possible. If we could, we would certainly always be happy. But it’s just fantasy. Happiness is not really a feeling, it is a way of life.
The truth is that your situation or the events in your life do not determine your happiness. Happiness does not come from any achievement, relationship or vacation. Happiness starts with a full value system that focuses on the present, loves oneself unconditionally, and is aware of the value of what has already been achieved.
Everything we just listed goes hand in hand with each other. So, if we strive to change our outlook on life and take a happy look at life, we will soon realize that happiness is found right where we want it to be.
Happiness is not found, it is done
There is no reason to seek happiness, for it is not hidden. It doesn’t just stay somewhere, even though we tend to think so.
If that were the case, there would be two kinds of people in the world: those who live an enviably happy life and those who have nothing and who constantly feel dissatisfied. However, this is not the reality. And if we think about it even more deeply: sometimes the people with the fewest are the happiest.
We don’t want to generalize, but often people who are used to less are the ones who also need less. So they can focus on the small pleasures of life instead of temporary rewards.
They really appreciate things. Thus, they also feel more pleasure, unlike those who do not value what has already been achieved.
Therefore, psychological fulfillment also comes from within. It’s not about getting someone we think we need and making us happy. If you’re not happy with what you already have, you’re probably not happy even when the desired thing is achieved.
How can I become a happier person?
The first step to happiness is to stop looking for it. When we tell ourselves that we should be happy even if we can’t, we feel frustrated. Frustration is not the key to happiness. In addition, an obsessive attitude towards happiness fuels anxiety and despair, which eventually turns into a struggle.
The truth is, we need very little to be happy. A little food – not too much or else pleasure turns into pain – a little water, a roof over your head, physical activities so we don’t get sick, goals that make us get out of bed in the mornings – but don’t worry about the end result – rest, oxygen – that’s it.
If we think we are forced to get something at any cost, we slowly begin to get anxious. And if we finally got what we wanted and lost it, after all, everything in life is eventually fleeting, we could end up in the depths of depression.
Change your values. Don’t focus so much on work, finding a partner, money, or success. When you lie on the deathbed, you will not remember any of that. You will remember the experiences you shared with your friends, the time you spent with your family, the midday coffee break at the cottage, and the hustle and bustle of your dog next to you as you spent a peaceful moment with a good book.
Your priority should be love. Love for yourself, life and everyone else. If you are able to love simple things, human things, and small details, you will be happy. What if we started today?
