How To Heal From Heartache

It hurts his soul. It hurts deep. Although he has known many people on the battlefield of love, he has never experienced anything like it and may never experience it again.

Now he’s gone. The man says he has found a new love that has turned his life upside down. She only feels friendship on her aunt, just like a sibling, but that’s all. The man tries to explain the situation while the woman feels that she is slowly dying inside. What exactly is it about? Well from heartache of course!

The woman asks herself again and again when the pain really stops. She cries quietly to herself every night when no one is watching. During the day, he tries to drown himself in thousands of things and fool himself. However, when night comes, the woman feels lonely and empty. And he plays that sad song that feels like it’s written for him.

Be patient, the heartache will heal

And as that wonderful song states, we want to forget him, but we just don’t know how. It is not at all simple to make memories disappear, especially when it comes to deep feelings.

No matter how hard we try to infiltrate new loves, drown in thousands of things during our days, stay away from certain places where we used to spend time together and where nostalgia gets tears in our eyes… Forgetting is a complex task once love has penetrated deep into you.

When the night arrives and we are alone with ourselves, when the work day is over, the daily chores are done, the feeling of love comes back and that’s where what’s intense.

But heartache, just like love, is an experience we all go through at some point in our lives. This should make us happy, after all, we are lucky enough to feel love, experience it, and learn what it really is.

So even if it hurts, heartache also has its positive side. It is the output of an intense, beautiful, and precious thing that was once a part of our lives. And that if that is something that no one can take away from us.

How do we recover from heartache?

• Talk about your heartache and surround yourself with the people you love. People who love us and who are on our side during difficult times can help us get over our grief by talking to us. Laughing and helping us put things in a new perspective. Don’t lock yourself in to your own thoughts.
• Keep in mind that the time you spent together was full of happiness. Life is priceless and we need to get used to it, “Everything goes and everything stays, but it is our duty to go.”
• Enjoy your singles. Society tries to push into our heads the idea that happiness can only be found next to another, but this is not always the case. The most important thing is to be happy yourself. And you can be happy alone, or in the company of another… seek your own happiness.
• Take your time. Cry, Shout… but then move on. You are whole with yourself. Stop looking for “your better half.” You don’t need anyone else.

• Don’t spend time with that person. Your wounds should heal. It’s not good to spend time with someone who evokes those feelings in you. Have fun, meet new people, flirt with them… “There are other fish in the sea.”
• Don’t plan revenge. What is that ugly and gray feeling really even about? It has no purpose other than to hurt yourself. While things may have been bad at the end of your relationship, forgive and let go without thinking about revenge for a second.

Recognize love and heartache as part of life, for life is also a bad moment. No matter how gray the sky looks now, the sun is guaranteed to shine yet. Learn about your relationships and keep growing.