I Didn’t Come For You, I Came Back Because Of My Ego
Why do some of our exist come back into our lives when all is well? Some relationships are very on-off type, which in itself is a very disgusting situation.
The person who wasn’t there when we needed him most suddenly comes back to our lives… just when we thought we had already collected the pieces back together. In most cases, however, the person does not return because of us, but because of their own ego.
The ego likes everything that meets its expectations. As the ego begins to control the way we love, we will soon find ourselves in Russian roulette, where victory means the fulfillment of our most selfish desires.
Above all, those people with a great ego seek recognition from others. Such people are unable to give recognition to themselves.
In order to build a mutually satisfying relationship, we need to negotiate our aspirations. Only then can we really be in a relationship where we both feel good. The love we want is as important as the love we offer.
The ego has no idea what love is
On-off relationships are exhausting and dynamically destructive. This happens especially when the other party in the relationship wants to stay in the early stages of falling in love. Unfortunately, however, it prevents the relationship from growing and maturing.
People who love self-centeredly think they own the right to their former partners. That’s why they try to get them back, especially when they see another person regaining their life.
They think they have the right to get into the life of their ex and leave it at any time. They think they have the right to fill new spaces that another person has used a lot of energy to create.
However, coming back together with your ex does not bring any good; you go back to the same old one and abuse a space that another person has worked hard for.
If your ex is trying to get back together with you, take a moment and think about all the work you have done for your recovery and what you really deserve.
Some people return together (or continue in a bad relationship) with the following principle: “Better known evil than unknown evil.” Others, on the other hand, return together purely for fear of loneliness.
And some people simply don’t have anyone to feed their ego, fulfill their desires, and tell how awesome they are.
Going back together… can it be a good thing?
After the separation, the desire to return to the ex can be strong. After all, you have shared a lot of experiences together. But… be careful.
According to experts, if you decide to go back together with your ex, it’s a good idea to think about the situation before taking action. During that time, you should consider why you want to get back together with your ex. Does he want the same as much?
For example, if we expect another person to change in themselves what is bothering us, we put tremendous pressure on him.
On the other hand, if we go back to our ex, it must start from the fact that we really like him as he is – with his pros and cons. We must also make it clear that a relationship can come to an end again if it catches fire.
Getting back together with our former love is in itself an important enough decision. We should not deal with it impulsively. It is true that we can listen to our instincts and even scale them. However, the previous difference and the efforts we have made in front of ourselves deserve careful thinking.
