I Like Real People Who Don’t Pretend
I like real people who don’t present anything. About people who don’t disappoint themselves or others. I want to be similar myself. If I live in eternal lies, just because I fear what others think or say, I become a slave to the will of others. This prevents me from being happy. Life is too short to be unhappy, it makes no sense to try to please other people.
I also like people who have a respectful attitude towards others. About people who don’t judge others and whisper behind their backs. If each of us does our part, the world is a much better place.
Authenticity is not hiding from fear
I like real people who have learned to live without fear and conquered the world no matter what their neighbors and acquaintances talk about behind them. I like them because they seem to me to be happy to live a life of their own. This is one of the most important lessons.
What about me then? I have not always been a true self and I may have condemned others because I am human and I make mistakes. However, I have the ability to think about my mistakes, the ones I make about others and also about myself. I know I shouldn’t hide but show who I really am. People who love me as my own self are enough for me.
I’ve learned to correct my own behavior, to say to myself: don’t judge, let the world go about your spending, don’t stare at other people, and treat everyone you meet in the same way, equally.
Not all people can be liked, but you can influence your own behavior in the company of others. If you don’t like someone, be polite and let them go about their spending. You don’t have to start as a best friend with everyone. Try to make the world a better place with your own attitude and your own abilities, respect others even if their opinions differ from yours. There are things worth fighting for, but you don’t always have to win.
What is an authentic person like?
True people believe that being themselves is the greatest gift they can give to others and themselves. They take risks and are not afraid to embarrass themselves. They try new things with devotion. Examples of features that define real people include:
- They are not afraid of what others think or say of them. They are not afraid that others will condemn them or resent them, they just want to be themselves in all peace.
- They recognize and appreciate their own uniqueness compared to others and know they are not perfect people.
- They know they are vulnerable.
- They don’t care that they might seem “bad” in other people’s eyes.
How do people who judge others show up?
Real people do not feel the need to judge others because they understand that everyone is different and that one truth and way of life is not for everyone. Condemning people focus all their attention on what others are doing. A judgmental person is identified by these traits:
- They don’t reveal their true faces. They are not genuine. They imagine themselves to be perfect and think that imperfection is something that affects all other people, not themselves.
- They are often unhappy and dissatisfied with their lives. They justify their lives by criticizing others.
- They are not critical of themselves.
- They have no interests or activities that entertain them. They get bored and therefore spend their time observing and criticizing others.
- They are often jealous. They talk to others behind their backs, criticize and judge, because deep down they are jealous. However, envy never hurts others, it always hits your own ankle.
Condemning people are afraid of what others think of them. They’re afraid of revenge and fighting, so they don’t dare say what they really think. They cannot be themselves without a thick shell. They try to unleash their bad feelings by adjusting others and observing the lives of others. Only when a person dares to be himself in the company of others and leaves behind the heavy burden of the past will he be able to see the life and happiness that is also available to him.
