If You Settle For Crumbs, You Will Always Be Weak And Hungry

Crumbs allow for survival, moving from one place to another over time. They give you a chance to go on with your life, but they also nourish you with distress, they drag your self-esteem and desires to the ground. There are too many people in the world who are content with crumbs even though they have incredible sensitivity and talent, and too many people who taste the whole cake without the slightest feeling or decency.

If there weren’t people who settle for crumbs, there would also be no complacent, selfish people, or at least they would have a harder time. We are talking about people who create toxic relationships: a sadist and a masochist, a selfless worker and a ruthless boss, a dedicated husband and a demanding wife. A painful parent and a child who turns into a “little tyrant”.

Do you think some of us are born to settle for crumbs and others are able to eat cake time after time? Logically, this cannot be the case.

The ability not to rebel has its roots in the distant past and the end result is a trapped self-esteem that has diminished due to fears. Thoughts formed from the smoke of fears that are really just shadows, that have no basis in reality in this reality except in the form of the chains that hold these people captive.

Crumbs only to survive from this day

Crumbs from today to survival mean hunger and uncertainty for tomorrow. It’s not easy to identify when you’re being given crumbs and when you’re getting something that makes you feel strong and whole. Take, for example, a woman who constantly seeks love and constantly encounters men who lie, ignore her, give her an insignificant role in her life.

This woman appreciates love, a sense of partnership, the intimacy of hugs. He needs a certain number of these to “get ahead”. However, he gives so much and settles for so little that he eventually finds none of these. He finds a kiss between hundreds of insults, he hears a beautiful word between countless contradictory acts, and he sleeps with someone he knows less and less every day.

Many people think that giving love without expecting anything in return is something great. The Machiavellian part of this unbalanced human relationship is that they give so much love without receiving anything that sometimes they give up love on their own altogether.

Loving without asking for anything in return is giving up on yourself indefinitely until you are finally dried up and exhausted, without anything positive reciprocally. Eventually you will end up with a situation where there is no port left to which you could anchor when the storm comes.

You don’t have to write a contract to know how much you’re willing to sacrifice each time. It is not a matter of anticipating possible damage. Your self-esteem requires fully open eyes, ears that listen intelligently, a memory that knows how to evaluate what just happened and what it no longer hopes will happen again.

Your self-esteem is not made of crumbs

Your self-esteem is not content with crumbs. Your self-esteem is content with empathy, self-confidence, the ability to be independent. Impaired self-esteem is like an employee who is rewarded with complete mediocrity, working hour by hour without a break, without any chance of a dignified life.

Giving up everything will never lead us anywhere, nor will tolerating embarrassment and enduring the indifference of others to please us.

If you want your self-esteem to flourish and the direction of your life to be visible instead of drifting, don’t let others give you crumbs and notice if you’re just content with certain things in your life. You may even be grateful now, for you may have thought that contentment is the only thing you can aspire to, but now your eyes open.

The end result is a vicious circle: when you end a relationship, you are always weak and hungry, content with crumbs here and there, unable to even taste the cake because you have convinced yourself that you don’t deserve it. Others believe this too. This seems to please them, give them pleasure, and thus you face crumbs, indifference.