Learning To Love Means Being Ready To Let Go

When we love, we find it very difficult to let go of what we have clung to. It’s something we haven’t prepared for before we go through that experience. Surprisingly, we have a situation where we are independent and have fed it without even noticing this.

Have you ever feared that a relationship would end? Most likely you are, and this situation in itself causes discomfort and suffering. We start a relationship full of enthusiasm and excitement and at that moment everything looks perfect and final. But nonetheless, the reality is different because everything that starts is likely to end, change, and change.

Part of loving is learning how to let go

We believe that there are permanent things. So we then trick ourselves into believing that there are emotions that will always be present, that people will never change, and that situations will stay the way we want them to. This is all part of the story we want to tell ourselves so we don’t have to face reality.

Haven’t you noticed how things around you are changing? Haven’t you noticed how you yourself are changing? Your body, your situation, your attitude and your experience, they all change over time. Inevitably, we live in constant change.

Love is possibly one of the most wonderful experiences that can happen to us, so we tend to pamper it, preserve it, and feel it forever. Love is like that. It is endless, as long as it lasts, although we must accept that it changes and flows like water from a source.

Love is incompatible with grasping. The basic essence of love is freedom. This is one of the most important lessons we need to internalize if we want to fight the frustration, bitterness, suffering, and even anger that comes when we hold fast to something that no longer exists.

If we don’t feel love, we get frustrated

Love does not hurt. It is a feeling that is enjoyed and lived with excitement, enthusiasm, and peace, knowing that we are with the person we love. It is an awesome inner peace and freedom to express ourselves. With this feeling, there is no room for suffering.

What happens when we love and don’t respond? This usual situation that causes tremendous pain gives us an example that we have not learned to love. We get frustrated, not because we love, but because we have learned to love with demands, expectations, and ownership claims.

It is very difficult for us to accept that love ends. When another person doesn’t feel the same way, we get hurt  and we suffer. These feelings are part of our idea of ​​love. By creating personal opinions that have nothing to do with love, we fall into self-destruction.

Frustration ends when we understand our own misconceptions about love:  realizing that freedom begins when we let go of everything that doesn’t let us be free, because clinging to the idea of ​​how things should be keeps us disappointed.

Letting go is the best test of our love

We suffer when we resist changes in love. We can reverse this situation based on our ability to love, accepting the freedom to be loved. By allowing ourselves to resist opposition to what we inevitably let go of. This experience may, in fact, bring us closer to inner peace.

Learning to let go frees us. It leaves us room for love that can continue to flow  and in return offers relief in the process to others so they can follow their own path. The one they have chosen and they need to follow. This is the most honest test of love  we can do for ourselves and others can do.

We love ourselves as we allow ourselves to start again and continue by being open to new ways of love. Without any kind of internal barriers that torment, paralyze, and kill our natural ability to experience our feelings  powerfully.