Letting Go: Accept The Past And Open The Door To The Future

Letting go is never an easy task. It requires courage and absolute conviction that by letting go, we will truly break away from that relationship, friendship, or some kind of situation that is holding us back. The courage to let go is essential to achieving balance and happiness.

Realizing that it is necessary to close the door requires mental maturity. However, being aware of this is a completely different matter than really daring to take the required step. The decision has to be made, but it can be very difficult and heavy, full of sadness and sorrow that you just have to try to get over.

Letting go means, in most cases, the need to “rebuild life”.  That means we have to think from the beginning and take root who we really are. Sometimes that means having to start all over again.

We must also keep in mind that not many people are able to accept and face the end of a particular period or perhaps an entire phase of life in the right way.

There are also known people who think that ending a relationship means that their lives are completely over. That after leaving goodbye and resigning, there is nothing left. They imagine that letting go can affect fate in the worst case scenario and that by doing so, a dark veil will shine over their emotional lives.

We should always be wary of such destructive, mind-boggling thoughts and attitudes.  After one thing is over, it may seem empty for a while, but in the end, there will always be a new day and a new beginning. New paths and opportunities will appear before us that will lead us to the state of happiness we long for.

Today, we would like to urge you to think about this idea a little more in depth.

Ways to let go mature and wise

At the beginning of this article, we mentioned how extremely important it is to show courage and determination. Letting go involves a huge number of different dimensions and depths, which, along with personal plans, are definitely worth considering.

1. Other people are not your future; you yourself are the blacksmith of your own happiness

It is possible that there will come times when you think of someone stepping into your life under the guidance of destiny; because that event was wrapped up in your destiny with countless inconspicuous, invisible threads.

In terms of love, you should keep your feet visually on the ground, your heart receptive, and the wings of your personal growth as open as possible. Romantic relationships are not nurtured by any magic dust, but rather by day-to-day well-being, the ability to compromise, and hope.

Fate is actually formed “here and now,” and if at this very moment you are not feeling happy or hopeful, you must cease to be an eternal prisoner of suffering. Your destiny and your own inner voice will show you a different path. Take it, as it is the path to your personal well-being. 

2. Letting go means making clear your own needs

Don’t give in to the fear of saying in an audible and clear voice that you also  have needs. Demanding respect and the right to be heard and to be cared for are really no signs of selfishness.

Sometimes when things don’t go as expected, instead of honestly realizing the feeling of emotional discomfort that bites our minds,  we tend to get caught up in certain things:  

• Fear: Fear that something nasty will happen if you say or do something. Fear of loneliness, fear of being wrong, fear of change…
• Postponement: we often think it might be better if we “ wait a little longer ” because there is little chance that things will change, that a protracted conflict in a relationship or some other situation will eventually go away and that the situation will eventually turn out for the best. towards that very soon someone else notices that you have worries or problems… However, it always happens that  time just passes and wears out and nothing ever happens. Nothing ever changes.

Don’t be afraid to become aware of your own sense of emptiness. Don’t be afraid to say out loud what you need to be able to feel happy. There is no pride or selfishness behind it, but rather a demonstration of  true courage and spiritual maturity. 

Needs are part of our self-esteem. They are part of our essential personal growth and our own well-being.

If you don’t feel like you’re a happy and contented  person, don’t unnecessarily destroy yourself from the inside in vain. Take action. React. Close this song forever in your life… Let it flag out. 

3. It is not the job of other people to tell you that something is over; no one has the right to close doors for you.

It is often said that  we will forever remember in our hearts the perfect friendship we  experienced in the past that no longer exists, or that love that was so intoxicating at first, which ultimately caused us tremendous pain. We hold fast to the relationships in our lives that changed us the most from within.

Everything is possible. It must be noted, however,  that none of those past events should mean too much in our present lives. 

Of course, you are not going to deny yourself new relationships just because someone betrayed you in some previous relationship. Of course, you must not let your heart turn into ice or stone, nor will you throw it deep into the abyss of despair just because someone has ever managed to hurt you in your life.

It is best to focus on the moment that is here and now. There is no person who would control the destiny that belongs to you or a person who would have the authority to decide the number in your life against your will. Letting go means making room for new things in life. For new and, above all, better things.

Never give up when it is quite obvious that a chapter in your life must finally come to an end. The key lies in the fact that there are simply things that should not but be allowed to happen or happen… And then it is essential that you do something decisive in front of the issue and not let the situation prolong unnecessarily and produce extra suffering.

It is absolutely important to remember to always take good care of your heart because it is the place where your truth and feelings dwell. It is these feelings that need to be nurtured diligently with the help of maturity, balance and wisdom… and most importantly alla a ton of courage.