Narcissistic Jealousy In A Relationship

Jealousy in a relationship is a complex emotion associated with passion and affection, but can also be associated with ego and power.  Narcissistic jealousy is one of the many forms of jealousy and this jealousy is characterized in particular by its self-centeredness.

There is usually no guarantee of a bond between a couple unless there is a specific agreement or interest. In most cases, however, this is not the case, and therefore it depends on many different variables, which are sometimes random. For this reason, it is always possible for a relationship to end, and it is not uncommon for a third party to have given the final blow to the termination of that relationship.

It is clear that a person in love does not want to lose his partner and that he may eventually feel that a third party is threatening the relationship. Under normal circumstances, there is jealousy, which manifests resistance and a feeling of insecurity. However, things don’t always go that simple, because sometimes there’s something else behind that feeling.

Narcissistic jealousy

So far, we have described “normal” and “motivated” jealousy. However, narcissistic jealousy is something else entirely. In these cases, it’s not about the fear of losing someone you love, but the feeling of frustration that a third party will displace him or her. Narcissistic jealousy also feels hatred for the happiness that one can feel with someone else.

Those who experience narcissistic jealousy suffer greatly, but not because of the loss of a loved one, but because of the wounding of their ego. It is often difficult for them to distinguish between the two. They do not feel hurt because one has attached their affection to the other, but are persecuted by the feeling of disappearance; it is remembered that narcissistic people deal largely with the relationship from the perspective of power.

It is clear that infidelity causes an emotional wound in a narcissistic person, and especially because of the deception to which it is usually associated. Under normal circumstances, however, it creates suffering that includes anger and resentment, but it is something that is ultimately possible to deal with – either because the relationship ends or because the matter is debated and the situation resolved.

This is not the case in narcissistic jealousy. Those who experience such jealousy do not rest until they “make another pay” for their mistake. Such a person feels that he has the right to punish another emotionally and sometimes even physically. The other is not “let go” without having to pay the high price for his mistake first.

Loving the narcissist or being the object of the narcissist’s love

The narcissist is not a bad person per se, but someone who needs help. The bad news here, however, is that they rarely admit it, and that’s why conflict resolution becomes complicated with such a person. On the other hand, they are also confusing. Over time, they become supportive and protective, charming, and vital to another’s life. In return for this, they ask for “only” complete admiration.

Narcissistic jealousy is typical of people whose ego has suffered a fundamental rupture. They see shortcomings in themselves, but at the same time compensate for this by overestimating themselves. They don’t even realize this themselves, because all of this works without them being aware of it themselves.

That fracture makes jealousy like a brand in his being. They don’t even need a third party to doubt the other and show distrust. In addition, they are jealous of their partner’s accomplishments and successes and always strive to stay one step ahead of their partner, or at least that nothing else is more important in his life than the narcissist himself as his partner.

Causing jealousy

Narcissistic jealousy also has another side. It is very common for such people to want to make their partner jealous as well. So it’s not uncommon for them to flirt with others in front of each other’s eyes or for them to be unfaithful and leave obvious clues to get caught.

By creating jealousy in their partner, they achieve something they need: to make them insecure. At the same time, mistrust – which is also worth it – is likely to make your partner focus more on the narcissist, and it is this attention and affection that the narcissist loves.

So it is very common for those who feel narcissistic jealousy to cause jealousy in another as well. It’s typical to “do to another what you wouldn’t want this to do to yourself,” taking a false start to the formation of a possible wound in your ego. In this way, they also try again and again to prove that they control their partner.