Some Neighbors Are Like A Nightmare
Bad neighbors are like a nightmare that no one wants to experience. As the popularity of apartments, flats and other shared dwellings increases, so does the neighborhood problem. And it’s not a small problem – it’s even led to murder in some cases.
Some situations are downright ruthless wars. There are many potential sources of conflict: a common moldy wall, loud music, annoying pets… Any small thing can lead to a confrontation that no one can ever resolve.
Conflict between neighbors
Any small thing can trigger a conflict between neighbors and turn it into something big. It is usually a power struggle. Both parties think they have the right to order the other according to their own will. Neither has any intention of conciliation – they want to win at any cost.
There are noisy people in many homes and residential communities who like gossip. Groups behave like small parties. Gossip and rumors float around and multiply. “It and it always asks for alcohol, who knows what kind of person she really is.”, “I see you know-yes-who every night with a different woman.”. Apparently, sharing a building gives people the right to intrude on other people’s lives.
It is only a small step to move from gossip to conflict. It is not uncommon for neighbors who do not get along with each other to end up blaming each other for some damage, inconvenience, or robbery. Common factors are usually mistrust and doubt. Forget the idea that a neighbor should be something between an acquaintance and a friend, someone from whom you can expect solidarity. Forget the idea that problems between neighbors can be solved without declaring an open war.
Privacy in shared spaces
Almost no one is lucky enough to be able to choose their neighbor. Neighbors come and go purely by chance. Certainly most neighbors have a few things in common (living in the same building, belonging to the same social class, having similar habits). However, some people are not happy to see others from afar. They want to participate in their lives and tell them how they should live. And some just simply don’t tolerate the way other people live.
If someone plays music from two in the morning, then of course it bothers the neighbors. But it is not logical to prevent someone from banging a nail on a wall to hang a board in the middle of the day in their own home. There is no way it can be done quietly and while it is annoying, it is not serious enough to start a war. Nor does it make sense that a disagreement with someone will result in the pet being poisoned or the rubbish being left in front of someone’s door.
While it may seem incredible, this happens every day in many places where people share a common wall. It’s not like before, when almost everyone lived in individual houses and disturbing other people wasn’t that easy. Today, it’s not uncommon for a home dispute to have an audience on the other side of the wall. The line between private and public life is no longer so clear.
It’s easy to feel like your home is captivated by someone else’s eyes, ears, and deeds. It’s annoying. But at the same time, most of us want to be able to do whatever they want in our own home without being convicted. It’s just a little harder these days and in some cases completely impossible.
This is definitely a situation that causes friction, which in turn can lead to conflict. Before your situation becomes full of hell, it’s best to have a genuine and mature conversation, as that makes escalating the situation less likely. In any case, before you declare war or move somewhere else, you should always try to come to terms with things.
