Want Less Drama In Your Life?

There is no doubt that there are people around us who want to criticize the lives of others and gossip about everything. They control and manipulate others, and sow the seeds of negativity everywhere they go.

Boredom can be defined as a lack of goals and hobbies, and along with a lack of pleasure, it can provoke certain people to seek satisfaction in their lives by living through others and sticking their noses into the affairs of others. They are looking for that intoxicating flow of adrenaline that they can only get from other people. 

We have each sometimes succumbed to gossip and other unpleasant behavior, but when this is part of a person’s basic character, it becomes something more serious than a momentary distraction. It becomes a problem when such behavior becomes a way of life.

Why do we gather people around us who cause drama?

We do not necessarily select such people for our close circle. We don’t necessarily get a say in the situation, just as a dog doesn’t choose an abusive owner. Sometimes the situation is like a lottery, and the numbers hit us by chance.

Drama queens and kings may be a part of our lives from childhood, maybe we get to know them in high school, vocational school, university. They might be our boss at work. They can be all these people or one of them. Our paths may face us constantly throughout life or we may not encounter them more than once. Whatever the situation, we cannot blame ourselves for it.

Giving them space in our lives is a different matter than sharing our lives with them.

How can I avoid them ruining my life with drama?

Kindness, respect and spiritual distance are our best weapons. The best answer to this is a slow but determined withdrawal from their sphere of influence.  Once we have taken the first positive step on the road to breaking away from such a person, we must continue to the end. Harmful behavior can be contagious and does not benefit us in any way.

Get to know the person and his or her person properly before letting him or her be close to you. Make sure you can trust the other and that he will respect you before you open up to things that are important to him or spend a lot of time with him. Make an informed decision about whether you want that person in your life. To be happy, we must make decisions. Our spiritual well-being is the basis for everything else in life, both for ourselves and our loved ones. If you decide to distance yourself from an unpleasant person, you have certainly made the right decision.

Characteristics of the Drama Queen and Queen

1. They are constantly chewing on the conversations and events of the past.  They may constantly remind you of embarrassing or difficult situations that you have chosen to forget. They may bring up nasty topics in the presence of others just to see your pain. They play a dirty game, and they want to hurt and annoy. Remember that they will only feel satisfied with the situation if you let your anger or feeling bad.

2. Making negative judgments. They believe they are always right, only their opinions carry weight. They don’t care about what others say and get all the opinions that don’t fit into their own world of values. Remember that you have to keep your head, don’t submit to the power of such a person. Make your own decisions.

3. They always want to have the last word. They want quantities and control. They are often head to head and cannot stand it if someone else gets attention. When arguing, they believe they are always right and cannot leave the situation until they feel overhead.

If you are trying to avoid such a person in your life, remove him or her from your social circle and if this is not possible, treat him or her coldly and gradually distance him or her.

Try to minimize your interactions and encounters with such a person. This is not always possible if the person in question is even a co-worker. Keep conversations to a minimum and don’t give them any kind of information they can use against you. If you get rid of such a person completely, good then, because your mental well-being will improve immediately.

There are people who go through our lives just to show what we don’t want to be. When observing such people, one quickly realizes what things are valued in others and in oneself and what one does not want to become.