We Become Angry When We Lose Self-control
Anger is not always evil. Like other emotions, anger serves a purpose. However, there is a boundary that divides controlled anger and uncontrolled rage.
In this article, we discuss the more negative side of anger that highlights our darkest side. When we get angry, we react in voluntary ways, that is, in ways that would be avoidable if we wanted to; someone may provoke us, but no one makes us angry, we get angry.
The anger that leads to rage is confusing
Anger becomes toxic when you lose control. Problems begin when you stop taking control of a situation and allow anger to take over from you: a feeling that penetrates you and blurs your reasoning.
From time to time, anger obscures our reasoning so much that we no longer find the loss of control strange. We forget the real reasons that originally caused the situation. Anger and rage become the drivers of our emotions, which eventually leads to mistakes.
Later, we may regret our message or the way we handled the situation. Our mistakes grow apart in favor of arrogance and selfishness (we don’t listen to others and just look at our own pole). As we get angry, we find ourselves in a situation whose origin we do not know exactly. We ask ourselves, how and why am I here now? Anger is a situation that has never been desired.
You can always see the situation in a different way
What can be done about it? The downside of anger is hard to neutralize. We must therefore trust that there are other ways of understanding events. Due to some circumstances – such as stress – we may get angry on a regular basis. Whether it’s stress or not, we can always look for tools that prepare us mentally and mentally for conflict.
The most important thing is to know that at some point, something can change us. We should accept it as an opportunity. Disputes cannot cease to exist, just like the irritability we face in conflict situations.
Identifying our weaknesses will help manage them. We can find liberation from writing, vent our vapors into yoga techniques, or cultivate a more positive image of a world headed by humor.
Paradoxical lack of control
As we mentioned earlier, in a conflict situation with another person, a kind of action-reaction arrangement arises, making self-control difficult. However, the Lord of our anger is within ourselves. Each of us is the master of our own feelings and attitudes. Paradoxically, however, we are unable to control ourselves.
It seems that some people are more prone to anger at others than others. They act abnormally, in a much more intense way (they scream, feel bad, and offend more easily). On the other hand, anger is a fairly common way of expressing feelings stigmatized by society, such as jealousy.
We make mistakes : anger is part of our human nature, but it is necessary to be able to control ourselves. In short, it is best to learn to deal with anger and its synonyms, the products of frustration.
